170. Rest and Recovery

I was very sick recently. 😩

I cancelled two trips and a visit from a friend and I felt like sh*t for nearly a month.

So rude, right? I wish I could feel good and healthy all the time, but alas, that is not the case.

Getting sick is part of living a human life (though it’s def not my favorite part).

And a wildly satisfying life often needs to include rest and recovery.

Things don’t always go according to plan. Bodies get sick and face other problems.

And beyond that, there may be other interruptions or surprises that demand a shift in how you spend your time and energy.

A loved one may pass away. There may be a natural disaster. You may need to grieve the many atrocities that take place across the globe (and likely all over your social media).

Being able to prioritize rest and recovery is an essential skill. And it is life giving.

The more you can make space to care for yourself and come back to some semblance of well-being, the more capacity you’ll have to tackle challenges and live joyfully.

Join me on this week’s episode of Satisfied AF for a full discussion about rest and recovery, how I’m centering these ideas, and how you can incorporate them into your own life.

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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

  • Why I want to model a slow rest and recovery process.

  • The costs and benefits of allowing yourself to recover slowly.

  • What happens when you invest time for rest and recovery.

  • The value of incorporating wiggle room in your calendar.

  • What might be happening if you find yourself needing to rest and recover often.

  • How to exist in a more sustainable way.

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This week we’re talking about rest and recovery.

The Satisfied AF podcast is the place to learn how to create a life and career that’s wildly delicious. Want a steamier sex life? We’ve got you. Want a more satisfying career? We’ll cover that too. And you can be sure we’ll spend lots of time talking about how to build connected, fun relationships that can handle life’s ups and downs. No matter what goals you’re working on, this show will help you create a one of a kind life that is just right for you. Join me, life and career coach Kori Linn and each week I’ll give you lots of practical tips, tools, and proven strategies to help you create all the satisfaction your heart desires.

Hello, hello, hello. Happy Wednesday. I am so pleased to report that I am feeling a lot better. Not 100% percent better, but a lot better than I was feeling on the last few episodes. And thank you to everyone who wrote in to ask how I was doing and to express wishes of a speedy recovery, I really appreciate you.

And it got me thinking, I’m kind of surprised, actually, that I didn’t do this podcast episode earlier when I felt more sick, but it feels very top of mind today, this idea of rest and recovery. And I think especially because now that I’m feeling a little bit better, I’m kind of looking around at my life and my calendar and my plans and the things I was supposed to be doing that I’m not doing.

So this January was supposed to be very full of activities. I was supposed to go to San Diego for a few days with Alex, including a VIP day with my coach while I was there. We were supposed to have a really good friend come and visit us for a few days. And we were supposed to go to Savannah for a week during which I was going to do some coaching stuff there as well. And it’s all canceled.

And honestly, that feels like a pretty big bummer. We had a lot of this stuff planned for months and we were really excited about all of it, but things don’t always go according to plan. And what felt exciting before felt totally unavailable for things like San Diego, which was already supposed to happen. It was supposed to happen last weekend.

And even though I’m healing and recovering and feeling better day by day, the stuff that is scheduled a little further out, it doesn’t sound fun anymore. It doesn’t sound exciting. It feels like pressure and it feels like work. And I thought it made more sense to cancel it.

And I’ll be honest with y’all, there’s a big part of me that is upset and having a bit of a meltdown about that. I feel resentful. I feel annoyed. I feel angry. I feel frustrated. I feel despondent. I feel sad. And I think those are all really normal things to feel. And I want to let myself feel all of them. And I want to be loving and show up for myself as I feel those things.

I think it makes sense if I had all these big plans and what I thought was going to happen and now that’s not what gets to happen, yeah, there’s a big part of me that is like, fuck this. I think that makes sense. And I bet you resonate with that too. I bet there are times when you thought things were going to be one way or one thing was going to happen, and then things didn’t go according to plan and there had to be a change of plans.

And that can be difficult. It can be hard to grapple with. And getting sick is so interesting because on the one hand it’s so mundane, it happens to everybody. And right now it’s happening to a lot of people. Everything I’ve heard is that lots of people are having colds, flus, Covid, RSV. A lot of stuff is going around there.

And I will say, having gone through this, Alex and I have been pretty Covid cautious for most of the time since 2020. And we’re going to return to that. We played a little fast and loose this year. We took some risks that we hadn’t taken in previous years. And we’re not happy with the results of that. So we’re going to go back.

So yeah, it can feel kind of mundane, like this happens to everybody. But it can also feel like such an attack and it can feel so unfair, which I think is so interesting how unfair it can feel since it really does happen to pretty much everybody in varying degrees at one point or another.

And I think it also just brings up, I think planning is good and useful and wonderful, and planning is imperfect because we never know what’s going to happen. You can plan your calendar to the nines and then you might get a surprise and then things have to change.

So I think it’s a really good moment to kind of think about, okay, planning is super useful, putting yourself out there and deciding what you’re going to do ahead of time can be very helpful for helping you have the kind of life you want and achieve your goals. And also you have to have that in the moment flexibility and adaptability to rise to the occasion or sink down on the couch in the occasion, depending on what the occasion is, and to take care of the reality that presents itself, even if it’s not the reality you prefer.

And what that looks like for me right now is rest and recovery. It’s been rest for about three weeks now and recovering kind of in the physical sense. And then the more I recover in the physical sense, the more I have to, or the more I have the capacity, rather, to put back together everything else that kind of fell by the wayside while I was sick, which was a lot of things.

If you follow me on social media, you probably noticed I went from posting pretty often, maybe every day sometimes, to posting not at all for several weeks. And if I had things set up with a scheduler behind the scenes, or if I had someone like working for me doing that, maybe that wouldn’t have happened, but I don’t have those things. So that was something that fell by the wayside.

So part of recovery is also picking up the pieces, picking up the pieces in my email. Since I was sick over the holidays I had an auto responder on for a lot of it, but there’s conversations that need picking back up. There’s stuff that needs to get moved forward. There’s client calls to reschedule and re-book.

You know, I run a business, so there’s a lot of pieces that need to get picked back up. Getting ready for taxes, doing my own payroll, things like that. And that all takes time and requires energy. So it’s interesting too, even as I’m getting better, the things I can plan for myself moving forward, it’s either going to take a big push of energy, which I’m absolutely not going to do because I don’t think that is in line with how I want to gently ease back into real life from being ill.

So since I’m not going to do that big push of energy, what it’s going to require is it’s going to take time. And some of the stuff is going to take even longer because I’m not going to do that big push of energy, I’m going to slowly and steadily reincorporate things. And I see so often people think that they don’t have time to do things this way. It’s like, that would be nice.

And what I want to model and advocate for, for you, is that you’re allowed to make that choice. You’re allowed to rest and recover slowly and to get the balls rolling again slowly. And that there’s a cost to doing things that way and there’s a benefit as well. So the cost is it’s going to take me longer. But the benefit is I think it’s going to be a lot more sustainable and I think once I get the ball rolling, it’s going to be able to roll forward sustainably as well.

So, for me, when I’m coming back from being sick or dealing with any kind of big surprise thing, I kind of want to set myself up that as I get things back in order, I do that in a way that’s kind to myself and kind to others, because if doing that takes everything out of me, then I think that kind of defeats the purpose because then I’m going to need another break again.

And while I’m very pro taking breaks, I’m very against setting your work life up in a way where it’s so intense that it requires a lot of breaks to even be functional. I actually am a big proponent of setting your work life up so that there’s a lot of wiggle room so that when things don’t go according to plan, when there’s a surprise, it is easier to get things back in order because there’s these pockets of extra time that can kind of absorb and flex and take some of that extra in without derailing the whole schedule.

So as I was thinking, okay, I’m feeling better enough to go back to taking calls, I went in and purposefully blocked my calendar so I was able to have a few calls on every day, but I didn’t have any days that were super full of calls. And I did that so that I would have time every day to rest in case doing the amount of work I’m taking, the few calls I’m taking, kind of wore me out because my capacity is not the same as it normally would be.

And also so I can kind of catch up on the backlog of emails and have time to record a podcast. Usually I’m kind of more ahead of schedule with podcasts, but because I was sick for so long, the time caught up with the amount of podcasts I had recorded. And I even recorded a few when I wasn’t feeling great, which was a choice I made, right?

I could have also chosen to have a few weeks where there weren’t any podcasts, so I could have re-released old episodes, but I made the choice in my head like, okay, of all the things I could do, this is the one thing I will prioritize doing because I wanted to be that continuity on the podcast. And even when I’m sick, I’m thinking about coaching ideas because that’s sort of just the brain I have. And so I still had things to say and to talk about.

So that is how I’ve managed and navigated my rest and recovery from having Covid over Christmas. But I also want to just ask you, what would rest and recovery look like for you? And what in your life, if anything, do you need rest and recovery from?

On the podcast I always want to share my ideas and teachings and the things I work with my clients on that I think are really helpful so they can help you too. But I want to be really clear that the way you do things might look differently. I’m not trying on the podcast to convince you to do things the way I do them. This is the way I do them, it’s the way that works for me.

But what I want you to learn from the podcast is the possibility of being able to do things differently so that you can figure out the way that works for you and the way that feels really good to you because this isn’t about me having a satisfying life and then kind of that being a cookie cutter thing that you can also have.

This is about me having a satisfying life and me figuring out what that looks like for me, and then me helping you figure out what it looks like for you because your wildly satisfying and delicious life is going to be different from mine. But no matter what it is, it probably will involve some rest and recovery since, as we have been talking about, things do not always go according to plan. And sometimes we have surprises and sometimes things go wrong and go badly and we get sick and we get behind on our schedule or things have to be canceled and rescheduled.

So I just want you to think about, do you believe you have enough time for rest and recovery? A lot of people don’t believe they have time for that. A lot of people, a lot of my clients, a lot of my friends are kind of living these lives of always trying to get through the thing they’re working on so they can get to the next part.

But then the next part is just something that they’re always trying to get through. And then they end up having this life that’s just always them trying to get through something to get to something else that then they have to get through. And I just, I don’t think that’s a very fun way to live. I think it feels very stressful.

So I want to invite you to consider the idea that there is enough time for rest and recovery and that investing some of your time into rest and recovery can actually help you do more and live more joyfully and achieve more goals in the long run, because it sets you up to exist more sustainably.

And when we exist more sustainably, first of all, I think it’s just more fun. And then second of all, I think it allows us to actually have the energy to be mindful and to be intentional and to figure out what we actually care about. And then to work on those things in a way that’s not going to burn us out. But even if we work in ways that don’t burn us out, things may still happen, like we may still get sick or there may still be some kind of surprise.

And so I also want to point out that if something’s going on in your life and you need to rest and recover from that, that doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. Needing to rest and recover is part of life because life is cyclical and because we have surprises and because no matter how well we plan and how much we try to make everything sustainable, sometimes things aren’t, sometimes we get sick, sometimes there’s a surprise we just couldn’t see coming. So there’s nothing wrong with needing to rest and recover sometimes.

Now, if you find yourself always needing to rest and recover, that might be an indication to look at what’s going on in your life and maybe make some changes because I don’t think it should be like that all the time probably, but that also depends. We all are living with different circumstances and some circumstances require a lot more rest and recovery than others.

And I know a lot of you listening to this podcast are very busy people. And so it may not feel like you have time for rest and recovery, but it’s an investment. It’s an investment and it can be such an important one. And it’s okay to deprioritize other things in order to prioritize resting and recovering. And it’s okay to rest and recover in smaller increments if that’s what you’re able to gather as resources for yourself.

I am a partnered person without children, and so I have the benefit that I’m not taking care of anybody else. I’m not a caretaker for anyone and so I’m able to rest in a really profound way. I work for myself and that is a privilege that I have. And also most of us have more options than we allow ourselves.

And so there may be rest that’s available to you, recovery that’s available to you, but maybe you’re going to need to give yourself permission to take it because you’re not seeing that modeled. You’re not seeing anyone in your life taking that, or you maybe have thoughts like a good mom doesn’t do that, or a good wife doesn’t do that.

You might need to rewrite the script on what it means to be a good parent, a good significant other, a good child, a good adult child, in order to take that time and energy back to have for yourself so that you can rest and recover.

And if you would like support because you know some big rest and recovery is needed in your life and you’re having a hard time prioritizing it, that is exactly the kind of thing I can help you with in one-on-one coaching. I would love to have a conversation about working together and what kind of delights and results you could expect in your life from that work. So you can scoot on over to my website and sign up for a consult call if that sounds like something you would like to have happen.

All right, that’s what I have for y’all today. Have a lovely week and I will talk to you next time. Bye-bye.

Thank you for joining me for this week’s episode of Satisfied AF. If you are ready to create a wildly delicious life and have way more fun than you ever thought possible, visit www.korilinn.com to see how I can help. See you next week.
 

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