What burnout?

If you’re anything like I used to be, you may not think you have burnout at all.

You just need to get through this meeting, this day, this week, this project, this year.

Or you just need a different schedule, more sleep, more yoga, less stress, and maybe a new job.

The thing is, most badass women struggle with burnout at one point or another, but it doesn’t always look the same, and we don’t always see burnout for what it is.

If your life isn’t quite working but you’re not sure why and you’re running out of f*cks to give, you may be dealing with burnout. But you may not see the signs.

Want to figure out how burnout is showing up in your life? I have just the thing.

What’s your burnout style?

Remember those quizzes we all used to do in magazines where you actually had to score the damn thing yourself? If you loved those as much as I did, you’re in for a treat.

Get some paper and write down your answers to the questions below. And, of course, be honest. Figuring out where you are now is the first step to getting where you want to go.

  1. On weekdays, the first thing you think when you wake up is…

    a. How much longer could I sleep in and still have time to get ready?

    b. There’s no actual way I’ll be able to get enough rest until the weekend, and even that won’t be enough.

    c. I’m not sure I can handle even one more day of this.

    d. Today will be terrific (but you also are low-key worried that it, ahem, won’t).

  2. When your boss says we need to talk, your initial reaction is…

    a. She’s noticed me reading all those internet articles about stress and now we have to talk about it. Again.

    b. What did I do wrong now?

    c. I’m probably going to get fired or at least yelled at.

    d. This isn’t necessarily bad (but you also mentally run through everything you’re currently working on to see if you can find any faults or f*ckups).

  3. When you think about how much work you need to get done and how long you have to do it, you feel…

    a. Like you can get it all done but it will require a lot of coffee.

    b. Completely overwhelmed and underwater.

    c. Resigned to the fact that this is what the rest of your life will look like, and you feel exhausted just thinking about it.

    d. Like you can do it because you’re a badass (but also like you have to constantly keep proving that you’re a badass).

  4. When people at work aren’t listening to your ideas or feedback, you...

    a. Book a meeting with your manager or a colleague you trust to vent.

    b. Completely check out of the situation.

    c. Keep it together as best you can until you can go to the bathroom and cry.

    d. Are totally chill about it (but only on the outside. On the inside, you’re worried that maybe they’re onto something).

  5. When your commute takes a million years, and you already didn’t feel like you had enough time for a personal life, you…

    a. Spend two hours researching work from home jobs, even though you have no intention of applying to them.

    b. Feel despondent and think life is just stupid and unfair.

    c. Stew about your irritation for the whole commute, arrive home totally exhausted, drink too much wine, and go to bed later than you meant to (because your evenings are your time, dammit).

    d. Remind yourself that you have a lot to be grateful for (even though you don’t feel grateful at all in this moment and the idea that you should makes you feel super resentful).