7 ways to be abundant
Building an abundance mentality has been a big part of the work I’ve been doing over the last few years, and although I know I’ve come pretty far, there are still days where I struggle. Today is one of them. As such, I’ve decided it’s time to tap into some of the tools I’ve accumulated for handling moments just like this. So, I wrote a list, because as Martha Beck will tell you, lists are magical things.
Give something away. Getting stuck in a scarcity mentality is scary, and it can make you want to hold onto everything you’ve ever owned, even things that no longer serve you. One way that I remind myself that the world is an abundant place is by noticing things I have that are taking up my space without being useful to me. By clearing these items away, I am doing two things. Firstly, I am creating movement, which is a great way to combat that stagnant, stuck feeling of scarcity. Secondly, I am making space for new things to arrive in my life. In scarcity-land, there’s this idea that we cannot give anything up because we don’t have enough as it is, but when we can test that assumption, we find that giving things up adds spaciousness to our lives. It gives us room to breathe. And room to breathe brings us into a natural state of abundance.
Find a way to add value to the world. This could be as simple as smiling at a stranger or as complex as handcrafting a piece of art. No matter what action you take, adding value to the world will shift your focus. Also, adding value to the world impacts our ability to receive value. Often, we get in our own ways when it comes to receiving abundance. We say no thank you or turn our heads or simply don’t feel worthy of accepting whatever the universe is trying to deliver.
Make a gratitude list. Let me be very clear here: the point is not to list things you think you should be grateful for, but rather to list those things which actually make your heart sing. For example, you may feel guilty that you’re not grateful for an opportunity that you had, but you might actually be extremely grateful for the fact that avocados exist and are readily available year-round. Like everything else in life, it’s imperative to let your gratitudes be what they are, not what you wish they would be.
Commit to taking a break from comparative thinking. As Teddy Roosevelt said, comparison is the thief of joy. Whatever you have or want or are, there is always a situation that you could think of that will allow you to feel bad about yourself. That’s right – I said allow. Because, and this part stings, you choose how you think about the world. Ouch. I know. There are moments in which it is easier (and maybe even more gratifying) to feel bad about ourselves. And yet this does not serve us (and it certainly doesn’t serve abundance). As Catherine Just would say, you’re comparing your insides to somebody else’s outsides. For one thing, you have no idea what the inside of that person’s life is like. It might be a complete and total calamity, no matter what it looks like to you. Besides that, abundance means that we can all be awesome, each in our own lovely way. Just because someone else is rich/smart/funny/deliriously good looking doesn’t reduce your chances of being a gorgeous force of nature. Your work is to find ways to appreciate without depending on side-by-side comparisons.
Reframe your situation in terms of what you do have. Because there is always something that you do have. Much like how people don’t always see their own gifts (because they are so ingrained it’s hard to even notice them sometimes), we often miss our greatest blessings. So, build a framework that focuses on what’s working, what’s lovely, and what’s possible (and in the world according to me: it’s all possible).
Get your mantra on. Repeating words over and over again is something your brain is doing all the time. You are always meditating, in a certain way, because your brain is immersed in its story, its perspective of the world. That being said, I personally find it more helpful to rehearse positive stories (such as: the world is vibrant and alive and full of possibility) rather than the negative ones my brain tends to come up with on its own (such as: life is just a series of never-ending hassles). It might sound silly, but practicing new thought patterns will change the way you think about the world, which will, essentially, change the world itself. Think about it – perspective is nine-tenths of reality.
Give yourself the gift of self-care. I once read that the universe takes its cues on how to treat us based on how we treat ourselves. That idea is woo-woo enough to make the rest of this article look like straight up science, but it also makes sense in the most basic way. Self-care sets us up to be our best selves in the world, and our best selves are kind, abundant, amazing creatures. And that kind of energy will certainly draw some awesomeness into your orbit. And even if it didn’t (but it will), what’s the harm of tending to your own needs? Obviously that’s a trick question. There is never harm in caring for your own sweet self with love and abundance. It always amplifies the good stuff. So have a nap or take a bath or do whatever it is that lights you up in the world.
And there you have it, darlings: my very own magic list to call abundance into being.
May your day be full of all the good stuff.